Online Dating Smart and Safe Use Tips

Online Dating Smart and Safe Use Tips Im sure that you have noticed the same thing I have in regards to time.  There seems to be less and less of it.  Work, household chores, family obligations, and taking care of yourself are just the start of our time eaters.  Add to that social media, movies, television, and every  other imaginable distraction and theres about  . . . three minutes left to think about new relationships. Over the last couple decades, more and more of us have turned to a dating website for help.  Even to the point of apps like Tinder that allow you to speed through dozens of potential dates in a matter of minutes.  No doubt, if youre determined to find a new mate, you can now locate lots of potentials targets with almost no effort. But of course with all that ease comes some risk.  Is the person really who they say they are?  Whats their background like?  Is that even their picture, and if it is, was it taken recently or ten years ago?  While dating apps and websites do pose risks, there are some simple tips you can use to make their use smart and safe. Photos In case you didnt know it, searching on Google isnt just for words and phrases.  You can search for images.  There are two ways this is important to you.  One is about your potential date.  The other is about you. When you see your potential dates photo, download it and then go to the image search function on Google.  That will tell you if the image has appeared anywhere else on the web.   Which is a good start to finding out about what else he or she may have been into recently. But that should have just set off an alarm!  Because just as you can search for someone else, they can also search for you.  So dont put an image youve used anywhere else on the dating site.  If you do, youll be giving complete strangers access to a ton of back doors to your life.  Instead, take a pic of yourself that will never be used anywhere except on that particular dating site. Dont Be Too Discrete Back in the day, there was a negative connotation to online dating.  While thats not the case today, you still may have the inclination to keep it quiet for the first date or two, just to see how it works out.  Big mistake! Whether its your best friend or in a post to your social media, you need to have people you know aware that youre venturing on the blindest of blind dates.   Dont let your ego get in the way of your safety! Whats Public and Whats Private Whats public is the place of the first meeting.   And the more public it is, the better.  Not just out in the open, but some place with lots of people around.  If they want a more romantic location, dont do it.  Theres no reason to be anything but social this early in the dating game. Whats private is all the details of your life.  Dont give your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and all the other social media site information until youre sure this is a person you at least want as a friend.  Doing otherwise may result in your gaining a secret admirer that you really dont want. Stay Alert This may all sound a little too cloak and daggerish to you.  But were talking about YOUR safety.  So especially during the first meeting or two, pay attention.  Observe and listen.   Inconsistencies are red flags.  Body language sometimes speaks louder than words, so know the basics of what it means. The bottom line:  dont do anything that makes you uncomfortable.  Statements like dont worry from your date mean just the opposite start worrying!  There are millions of great relationships that started on dating websites.  And theres no reason you cant have similar success.  Just stay smart, and stay safe! Image credits: Main    Shadow.  Happy.